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Kick The Addiction To Cigarettes
By Alan B. Densky, CH
There are two psychological states that must be appeased before a smoker will willingly stop smoking. These elements are called "Desire," and "Decision."

DESIRE: A want, crave or a wish for

DECISION: Making up of one's mind / a verdict or judgment

In order to stop smoking, a smoker must have a DESIRE to kick the habit. You probably want to stop smoking, at least some part of you does, or you wouldn't be reading this article.

In addition, in order to stop smoking, one must DECIDE to quit. Since you haven't broken the smoking addiction, it simply means that you have not DECIDED to stop smoking yet.

So what you need is to feel a compulsion to make a "DECISION" to stop smoking.

MOTIVATION, we all want it. The foundation of each of our motivations is what we believe. Think about it, if you did not have a that you could be hurt if you stepped in front of a moving freight train, you would not experience motivation to be cautious. If you did not believe that the gnawing feeling in your stomach meant that you were hungry, you would not feel motivated to eat.

When it comes to breaking the cigarette habit, people who have a smoking habit need to feel a lot of of motivation to make the DECISION to give up cigarettes. Motivation is based on the thoughts that we believe. So you will need to figure out what thoughts would motivate you if you believed them. Because when you feel a great deal of motivation, you will stop smoking.

Thanks to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and self-hypnosis for motivation, it's a lot easier to learn how to believe these new ideas than you probably think it is. However, you don't believe the ideas that will motivate you to stop smoking at this point, or you would have already broken the habit.

For the purpose of this discussion, we need to define a few words.

DOUBT: Uncertain/distrustful/dubious - "maybe it's this way, and maybe it is not."

BELIEF: Trust/faith/tenet - A state of mind devoid of all doubt. In other words, means, "this is the way that it is."

HIGHLY VALUED CRITERIA: What is most important to you, as an individual.

When you totally believe that if you continue to smoke your highly valued criterion will be in jeopardy, you will feel the motivation that you need to stop smoking. We call this is a negative motivator, because it's a that motivates you by providing you with bad feelings. Negative motivators are great for getting you to make decisions and changes in your life.

When you believe that if you do stop smoking, that which is most important to you will become enhanced, you will also feel the motivation that you require to stop smoking. This is a positive motivator, because it motivates you by promising good feelings if you stop smoking.

The first mission is for you to figure out what the most important aspects of your life are. Your most highly valued criteria are usually intangibles. For example: Money would not be highly valued criteria, but the freedom, fun, or security that money can purchase would be. Write your list of highly valued criteria down on a piece of paper.

Next you need to conclude what you will need to believe to feel motivated to break the smoking habit. Here is the good news, sort of: Logic has nothing to do with belief. Things don't have to be logical for you to believe them. As a matter of fact, they rarely are. So do not worry about logic!

The format for your negative motivator beliefs will be: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, something bad will happen to my most highly valued criteria."

Make sure that you frame your motivators in the positive. In other words, always state what you want or what will happen. Never state what won't happen. Eliminate the "not" word from the beliefs.

In this example we will say that your children's health is your most highly valued criteria.

WRONG: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, I won't be doing my kid's health any good."

CORRECT: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will give my children cancer."

Next, create a list of positive motivators. "I believe that if I stop smoking: (something very important will be enhanced)."

WRONG: "I believe that if I stop smoking, I won't give my kids cancer."

CORRECT: "I believe that if I stop smoking, my kids will be healthier because I will eliminate their exposure to the dangers of my secondhand smoke."

The next step is to modify the computer codes in your brain to make yourself actually believe these new ideas. Now for a bombshell: Your beliefs have nothing to do with real logic. Instead, your beliefs have everything to do with what your perception of reality is. In other words, it has a lot to do with the way that you see things.

Our systems are located in our unconscious mind. The uncouscious mind is like a computer. Computers do not reason. What goes in controls what comes out. To demonstrate, I want you to think of something that you already believe without the slightest bit of doubt. Make it a that gives you a good feeling.

For instance, it's easy for most people to believe that they love their kids. If that is true for you, make a mental picture that lets you experience that feeling of love.

I'm going to ask some questions, and there are not any right or wrong answers.

Is your mental image a moving picture, or a still?
Is it in color, or in black and white?
Is it close or far?
Is it focused or fuzzy?
Is it normally bright, overly bright, or dim?
Is there a border on it?
Is it borderless?
Is it a panorama?

Whatever your answers are, write them down. These are the computer codes that your subconscious uses to indicate your feelings of belief. In this case they are the mental codes for positive belief, because you've chosen a that gives you a good feeling. You've just calibrated your positive belief.

Every positive picture is bright and focused. If yours are not, you probably do not really have total belief. An element of doubt is probably present. So find another from which to calibrate.

If you think of something that you doubt, and you make a mental image of it, one or more of these computer codes will probably be different. Similarly, if you have a that gives you a negative feeling, (a negative belief): one or more of those codes or submodalities will be different.

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming we call these particular computer codes visual submodalities.

Now you will need to calibrate a negative belief. So repeat the same exact process, but do so using an idea that you already believe, that makes you feel ghastly.

Once you've calibrated both your positive and negative beliefs, it's a simple issue to manipulate what you believe so you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit smoking cigarettes.

So, to summarize, using the above example: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will ruin my children's health."

1. Become aware of how motivated you feel to stop smoking.

2. Make a mental picture that illustrates the above belief.

3. Adjust the codes (visual submodalities) of the mental picture to make them match the computer codes from your calibrated negative belief.

4. If you are right handed, move your eyeballs (and your picture) up to your left and hold it there for five seconds. If you are left handed, go up to the right. This will make you quickly memorize the belief.

5. Now become aware of how well motivated you feel to stop smoking. Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel less motivated? Or are your feelings the same?

Using this method you can make yourself believe almost anything by making an image in your mind that illustrates your new idea and then adjusting your mental picture so that it matches your calibrated images.

And if you have a that is holding you back, you can use the same technique to change that to doubt by changing one or two of the submodalities and memorizing it that way.

Now that you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit, you will stop smoking. A DECISION to quit means: I'm quitting no matter what. If you are like most, you won't want it to hurt and you do not have to. Because there are several hypnotic techniques that can greatly reduce, or even completely eliminate the discomforts of withdrawal from the cigarette addiction. And you can read about them in my library of original hypnosis articles.

(c) 2007 By Alan B. Densky, CH. This document may be re-printed as long as it is not altered and the author's name and clickable web address are retained.

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Alan B. Densky, CH. offers hypnosis CD's for breaking the cigarette smoking addiction. He developed the Neuro-VISION(r) Video break the smoking addiction hypnotic technology. It received a US Patent because of its effectiveness. Mr. Densky can be reached through his Neuro-VISION web site.

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